How To Pick Up Moms: A Practical Guide To Making Mom Friends

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Hey y’all! It’s Jess! I am back and loaded with lots of info for all of you!

Let’s talk friends. Specifically, let’s talk MOM friends.

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I have always had lots of friends. I could make friends sitting at the airport. In fact, that IS how I made one of my best friends.

I had NO idea what making MOM friends would be like. I just assumed they would all hear I had a baby and come line up at my door with muffins and play date invitations. That happens right?

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Turns out, making mom friends is not always simple.

Don’t worry though mama. There are TONS of mom’s just like you waiting to be asked out on a playdate.

Let’s get down to the details-

First, WHY do you even need friends?

When you become a mom, you get completely lost in your own world with this new tiny human you have been entrusted to keep safe and alive. This can happen whether it is your first or your fifth baby! Check out Erin’s Self Care for Parents blog for more info on possible ways to care for yourself.

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Us moms get so caught up with all the new baby things that we are lucky to just be able to feed ourselves so making mom friends isn’t always at the top of the list. Should that stop you? Heck no.

In fact, TONS of studies have shown how important friendships are for a mother’s mental health. A UCLA research team has found that women (not just mothers) don’t simply opt for the normal “fight or flight” response but instead, women lean heavily on social support from friends. Read the study here. Social media is great for keeping long-distance relationships alive but it is no substitute for spending time together in person. Anyone who has moved away from family and friends can attest to this fact.

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Also, let’s be real for a minute here, other moms just GET IT.

Have you got a mystery (possible poop/vomit) stain on your shirt? No problem! I probably have one too! This is why I only wear black now.  

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You running super late to your 9:00am playdate because your baby decided to have a blow out the MINUTE you walked out the door? No worries! My kid vomited on herself and me and my front door so I am also running late!

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Your house looks like a tornado hit it in the middle of the night? Same, girl! My babe is currently teething and only allows me to set her down for 30 seconds at a time! Not much time for cleaning.

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Poop stories? Share them! I can’t wait to hear them! WE GET IT!

Now, you know WHY you need friends but WHERE and WHEN do you make these mythical mom friends?

This is easy.


Moms are everywhere: parks, grocery stores, doctor’s appointments, walking around the block, and so on and so forth.

If you see a mom you think you might like, ask her on a play date or for coffee? You might be the mom friend she has been waiting for.  

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We know the WHY, WHERE, and the WHEN but HOW do you make a mom friend?

This is a little harder. It might require you to step out of your comfort zone but you can do it, mama! I believe in you!

First thing is first, you want to spot the possible mom friend.

Once you have spotted the mom you think you could be friends with (maybe her baby is the same age as your baby? Or maybe she just has awesome dance moves?) Either way, it’s working for you and you’re on your way to making a mom friend.

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Second, walk towards said mom.

This is hard. I know. It is so easy to get caught up in the daydream of the beautiful friendship that could be and all the coffee dates you’re going to be having and laughs you will share. Snap out of it mama and get to walking!

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Third, smile and comment (this can be a “pick-up line”).

My favorite mom pick-up line right now is a simple one: “Your baby is soooo cute!!! How old is he/she?” Every mom thinks their baby is the most adorable baby ever (because they are!) but it’s always nice to hear it from someone else.

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Fourth, ask the dreaded question.

THIS IS YOUR TIME! Ask that mama, “would you like to set up a playdate?”

If you’re a bit shy, start slow and ask for her number.

I find it is easiest for me to GIVE my number rather than ask for it but then you are risking not getting a call or the possible mom friend forgetting.

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Personally, I would say something along the lines of “we should get them (the babies) together for a playdate. (Hopefully,  possible mom friend is shaking her head in agreement or smiling so you can continue) Let me give you my number and you can let me know when is best for you!”

Last but not least, ENJOY your new mom friend!

YOU DID IT! Dive on in and enjoy having another adult to communicate with! Well done, mama! gif of mom from "mean girls" saying "i'm a cool mom" for post. Blog post "The why, when, where, and how of making mom friends" by Jessica Potts.

What are some of your favorite places to make friends? Any “pick up lines” that have worked for you?

Self Care for Parents

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Hey Y’all, it’s Erin.

So much of our focus as parents is on caring for our children. Self care for parents is just as important.

If we don’t take time to “refill our cups,” it can lead to burn-out. Our stresses can consume us.

I’m not sure about you, but when I’m stressed then I get irritable. When I’m irritable, I don’t have patience. Our little ones require lots of love, attention, and patience. So, taking some time to take care of ourselves is a vital part of caring for our littles.

This post is going to offer 5 strategies on self care for parents. Maybe you’re reading this as a parent who needs to implement these strategies. Perhaps you’re the loved one to a parent looking for ways to help them take some “me time.”  Either way, this post is for you!

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It’s Mother’s Day Already?

is it mothers day already? blog header from blog - photo of a mom hugging her toddler who is standing, wearing an orange lil helper cloth diaperI can’t believe how much more quickly time passes as a parent. It’s crazy that Mother’s Day is less than a week away!

I swear it was just yesterday my oldest was born but she’s almost eight, so I know my perception of time is warped. Days blur together in the best way where I can only remember all the sweet moments. The moments where my girls will come up to me out of the blue and tell me they love me. Conveniently, I don’t remember the time that they flooded their bedroom with soap and water when I asked them to clean it. Oh wait, I do remember, but I look back on it and laugh.

There are some days where I am so eager for bedtime. Days that I’m fixated on the clock to see if I can finally get a break. Parenting is HARD!

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The Parenting Olympics – Why would you win gold?

In August 2016, the Summer Olympic Games were held in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. In between diaper changes and Peppa Pig marathons, we managed to watch snippets of the games. At the end of the day, we climbed into bed and dreamt of hurdles made out of cribs, canoeing in a bathtub full of rubber ducky’s and mountain biking over a pile of laundry. Which got us thinking… if the Parenting Olympics existed, what would they look like?


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So, of course, we had a contest!

The question – “If the Parenting Olympics existed, in which event would you win gold?”!

The prize – a gold Lil Helper Charcoal Diaper (well, we actually call it Mango) and by random draw, the prize went to Fleur Fouchard in Saskatchewan, Canada!

We got so many incredible answers; we had to share them on our blog. Here are some of the best entries we received in our “Parenting Olympics Contest”

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