Tandem Breastfeeding

Hey y’all it is Jess again!

A few weeks ago I talked about breastfeeding while pregnant and how difficult but doable it is.

Gif of a women and text written I'm a breast feeding woman!, Tandem Breastfeeding by LilHelper.ca Blog

WELL let me tell you about tandem feeding. Prior to this time in my life, I had only heard of tandem feeding when talking about twins. 

What even is tandem feeding? 

Tandem feeding is when you nurse two children at the same time. Now, this can include several situations- feeding twins at the same time, feeding a toddler and an infant, and feeding a toddler and an older child. This also includes nursing one first and then the other or nursing both at the exact same time. 

nursing one first and then the other or nursing both at the exact same time. , Tandem Breastfeeding by LilHelper.ca Blog
(Photo from huffington post canada )

Every mother’s experience is different while nursing. I am just going to share my experience.

breast feeding gif, Tandem Breastfeeding by LilHelper.ca Blog

NURSING ANY CHILD IS SOOOOO HARD. Nursing two in wild.

NURSING ANY CHILD IS SOOOOO HARD. Nursing two in wild., Tandem Breastfeeding by LilHelper.ca Blog

During my first trimester, my food intake was insane (or so I thought) but that does not compare to the amount of food I consume now feeding two babies.

eating gif - do not compare to the amount of food consume now feeding two babies., Tandem Breastfeeding by LilHelper.ca Blog

My daughter is now 23 months and loving on her “lechita,” which is what she calls breastmilk. Her 1 month old brother is also a big “lechita” lover.

cats gif, Tandem Breastfeeding by LilHelper.ca Blog

Difficulties

The hardest time for me has been finding a balance with both the kids. Some days it feels like all I do is breastfeed. I switch between one baby and the other. It is exhausting. I am drained (pun intended). Then, my big baby will hold my tiny baby’s hand and I melt like butter. 

The hardest time for me has been finding a balance with both the kids. Some days it feels like all I do is breastfeed, Tandem Breastfeeding by LilHelper.ca Blog

The biggest difficulty which I didn’t foresee is how much my daughter would crave that closeness and how hard that would be for me. Some days, I feel touched out.

I just want a minute to myself but my toddler wants to nurse, she wants to be close to me., Tandem Breastfeeding by LilHelper.ca Blog

I just want a minute to myself but my toddler wants to nurse, she wants to be close to me. It is so hard to not hurt them and also take care of yourself. Why can’t moms just have massages all day everyday? 

Why can’t moms just have massages all day everyday? Tandem Breastfeeding by LilHelper.ca Blog

Concerns

One of the biggest concerns I had when I was getting ready to tandem nurse was if my tiny baby would get enough milk. Thankfully, breastfeeding is all supply and demand so the more they nurse, the more my body makes and they are both doing super well. 

My baby’s pediatrician had me come in a bunch of times to make sure he was gaining enough weight. I am happy to report that he is gaining weight just fine. 

baby clapping for some sport event, It is okay to wean. It is okay to continue. It is okay to admit it’s hard. It is okay to admit you need help. , Tandem Breastfeeding by LilHelper.ca Blog

It’s okay 

It is okay to wean. It is okay to continue. It is okay to admit it’s hard. It is okay to admit you need help. 

Remember thinking how in the world am I going to eat right now with one baby attached to your body? It only gets harder with two. The portability of foods becomes increasingly important. Can I eat it with one hand? Yup. Perfect meal. 

Can I eat it with one hand? Yup. Perfect meal, Tandem Breastfeeding by LilHelper.ca Blog

All in all, only you know what you are comfortable with. As long as you and your child/ren are being taken care of by a medical professional to ensure that everyone is okay, continue nursing mama. If you want to wean, consult a lactation consultant on the best way to do so in order to ensure that you don’t hurt yourself in the process. 

You are all amazing. Whether you bottle feed, breastfeed, or tube feed. Keep babies alive while keeping yourself sane is so hard.

You are all amazing. Whether you bottle feed, breastfeed, or tube feed. Keep babies alive while keeping yourself sane is so hard, Tandem Breastfeeding by LilHelper.ca Blog

Share some weaning tips or encouraging words below for any mama needing advice 

Lessons learned on my coparenting journey

Lessons learned on my coparenting journey

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Hey Ya’ll, it’s Erin.

Parenting with someone you love is super tricky.

Parenting with someone you’re no longer with can seem almost impossible.

gif showing a man and text written is such a thing even possible? YES IT IS. Lessons learned on my coparenting journey by lilHelper.ca

I’ve been on a coparenting journey for about 2 years now.

It hasn’t always been easy, but I can say that it’s become easier over time.

I’d like to share some coparenting tips that I’ve learned along the way.

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Cats and Kids: What their behaviors mean

Cats and Kids: What their behaviors mean

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Hey y’all. Jess again! 

I am back to my series on how to keep the peace between your fur babies and your human babies. I know not everyone has dogs so let’s talk about your human babies with a different kind of furry creature–a cat. 

Black cat with a new born baby gif, Cats and Kids: What their behaviors mean by LilHelper.ca Blog

Full disclosure: I do not own a cat. I never have. I have had very limited interactions with cats as I am ridiculously allergic to them so everything I am sharing with you is based on research and not personal experiences. I do love these furry creatures though! 

Cute baby playing with cat gif, Cats and Kids: What their behaviors mean by LilHelper.ca Blog

Let’s first do a quick run-through of what anxious behaviors look like in cats

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What’s In My Hospital Bag? – Twin Edition!

Hello everyone! Ariel here this week, and I’m coming at you 30 weeks pregnant with twins and feeling about ready to pop! (But also crossing my legs and hoping these babies stay put a while longer!)

I am going to be sharing the top three most important things in my hospital bag for birthing our twins. Some things are new items that I have discovered since the last time I gave birth. Some are preparing me for any scenario that might play out at the hospital.

Once the twins have arrived and we are settled at home, I will write a follow up blog post about what I ACTUALLY used out of the bag! So without further ado, here we go!

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